Being from the glorious South, I grew up knowing the ins and outs of what is expected of us in regards to respect and manners, etc. Maybe those aren’t the right words. But they’ll work I guess. Generally, we’re taught how we’re supposed to interact with each other. In most cases, it’s generally expected of men to hold doors for other people, especially women (as well as the elderly). This hasn’t really been the case as of late, unfortunately. Call me old fashioned, but I do like (and am extremely flattered) when a guy legit holds the door open for me!
[This is extremely random, but that’s the way I like it. TODAY IS MY HALF BIRTHDAY. Only six months left of being a teenager. Get pumped, yall!]
Now, I go to what used to be a fairly conservative all male army college. Then they let women and everyone else in. Twenty years ago, it wasn’t uncommon for a man to hold the door open for many people. But now in the year 2011, the instance of doors being slammed in faces is rapidly occurring. This may not be a big deal to some people, but it is to me. I can accept just pausing to allow the person behind you to grab the door before continuing to walk so it doesn’t shut, but completely ignoring the person is just plain rude.
On a side note, I actually had the privilege of having the door held open for me today. In the building I was going into on campus has two sets of doors you enter. The first time the guy just paused to hold the door and kept walking after I grabbed it. BUT, at the next door he actually opened it and let me through first. It was magical. I mean, this never happens and it definitely made my day. He may have been doing it just to check me out, but I’m going to disregard that because of the fact that he did hold the door like a real gentleman.
I’ve actually talked to people that are offended by other people holding the door open for them. Or waiting until they can catch it so it doesn’t slam shut in front of them. Offended? Really? They claimed it made them feel like the other person thought that they were incapable of doing it themselves. That’s probably one of the dumbest loads of crap I’ve ever heard. Maybe that’s just a different upbringing than mine. I still feel like, they’re in my state (yes My State), they should at least attempt to abide by the everyday rules that are generally followed. Pausing for a few seconds to avoid possible injury, or having someone be polite enough to wait for you to catch up is not INSULTING. It is POLITE AND KIND. It isn’t going to hurt you.
So next time you’re going through a door, pause for a moment and look around, be kind to your peers. Kindness is contagious.
xoxo, the little birdy.